It’s a new year. A time to reflect back and plan ahead. Many times I think I spend time trying to plan ahead and make goals, but not necessarily enough time on the reflection. But how can you plan where to move if you don’t even know where you’re starting?
I’ve seen a lot of those “9 best of 2016” photos going around Instagram and decided to make my own. And it was literally impossible. As I looked through my pictures I was reminded of all the fun, sweet, special moments I’ve had this year. I realized that despite this year not feeling particularly eventful in a lot of ways, it was filled with the types of things I love the most: time with my family, simple days at home, learning and growing and living life together. I was reminded to be grateful for the two little lives that I have the privilege to raise. And I think that’s a good place to start as I reflect more deeply on this past year. Even when the details of life get challenging, the big picture, or grid of pictures, is one to be extremely thankful for.
One of my favorite bloggers at Modern Mrs. Darcy uses a couple of questions to reflect on the year and help pinpoint goals for the next. They are “What worked for me this year?” And “What didn’t?” I thought sharing the answers to those two questions would be a nice way to get into some of the more tangible details of my year.
First I’ll start with what didn’t work for me this year, that way we can end on the positives.
What didn’t work for me in 2016
In a word: pregnancy.
Now, please don’t take this the wrong way. Remember above: extremely grateful. We are very happy to be welcoming a new little boy into our family in a few short weeks. I’m referring more to the physical condition of being pregnant. This is a tricky line to walk, because I’m very aware of the blessing it is to be able to get pregnant and bear children. All I’m saying is, it’s hard ya’ll.
The year started with ambitions of ramping up my productivity. I wanted to plant a garden. Learn some new crafts. Plan a million activities for my kids. We were going to go on long walks, and learn to bake, and finally get all those toys in order. I wanted to write on this blog more regularly and do the types of projects that one blogs about. I had a couple ideas of crafts or design projects I could do to bring in a little extra income for our family and give me something to do other than all mommy all the time. I wanted to get more involved in some mom groups so my kids and myself could enjoy a little more social interaction.
And then I got pregnant.
It was a welcome, but somewhat earlier than planned, development. And I just wasn’t quite prepared for the change in plans it would require. Because pregnancy is draining. Pregnancy while caring for a preschooler and toddler took just about everything I had most days. Needless to say, my plans for the year went off the rails. My plans soon became keep everyone alive and fed until I can nap on the couch for a while. So yeah, 2016 has felt in a lot ways like I’m just trying to hang on and get through.
But there are a lot of things that did work for me, some more significant than others.
What worked for me in 2016
Kroger ClickList: Our local Kroger started offering online ordering earlier this year and I have faithfully used it every week since. I’m not sure how I would have gotten through grocery shopping with two kids every week for most of this year without it. Instead of braving the store every week, I can order my food from the comfort of my home. Many times my husband was able to swing by the store and pick up the order, but even when he couldn’t, it was much faster and a lot less hassle to strap the kids in the car, wait for the attendant to load up the trunk and head straight back home. Hallelujah for modern convenience.
Netflix: Many evenings I would fall asleep immediately, but for those nights when I wasn’t quite ready to go completely unconscious I would binge watch TV. Not the most productive or edifying thing to do, but there was no brain power left for anything else. The 9 seasons of “How I Met Your Mother” kept me entertained for quite a while. And now I feel like I’ve caught up on a decade’s worth of pop culture references.
Late night snacks: Poppy has only recently been agreeable to other people caring for her, so date nights have been pretty much non-existent for my husband and me for the past two years. But we have gotten in a habit of sharing a late night snack together each evening, and although there are many nights when we should really go to sleep earlier, the chance to have a conversation while our kids are asleep and quiet is what keeps our relationship alive. If we go more than a few days without those late night chats we start to notice in the form of more misunderstandings and out-of-sync feelings. Sacrificing sleep for more connection with my husband is one of the best things I do for myself each day.
Podcasts: I’ve listened to a lot of podcasts this year, mostly while preparing meals in the kitchen. It’s been a great way to get some adult voices in my ears on those days when most of the noise in my ears is, well, not coming from adults.
Extra shelves in the kitchen: Earlier this year, while decluttering the kitchen, I added four shelves total amongst a few of my cabinets. And it has made all the difference in the world in how organized my kitchen is. Pots and pans that I used to have trouble accessing are now at my fingertips, and stacks of plates that I used to have to shuffle around to get the size I needed are now all separated and have plenty of breathing room. It’s been months since I made that small improvement and I still feel a surprising amount of satisfaction each time I get out a saucepan.
Ivy Kids subscription: We got this subscription for Charlie for his birthday this year and I have been continually impressed at the quality of activities that come to our door each month. I hope to write a more thorough review sometime in the future, but for now, if you’re looking for a way to do more fun and educational activities with your preschooler without a lot of stress and prep, Ivy Kids is a great option to explore.
Kids that love each other: I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, watching my two kids become friends is probably my favorite thing about being a mom of two. Sure, they have their squabbles. They’re siblings after all. But the way they make each other laugh, the way Poppy tries to join in on whatever Charlie is doing, the way Charlie randomly kisses Poppy on the cheek and says, “I love my sister.” I mean… how could it not make your day a little better? I look forward to how their relationship will grow over the years and it’s probably the reason I’m most excited to add a third to the mix.
So despite feeling in survival mode for much of 2016, it had some wonderful high points as well. 2017 will probably be another year of getting my feet under me, this time as a mom of three. Most of my loosely thought through goals for the year involve improving on household structures and routines, with the distant hope that getting a handle on the home will make it possible to pursue other interests someday. So keep an eye out. The frequency of my blog posts here will probably give a pretty good indication of how I’m doing with everything else. 🙂
Happy new year! And may your 2017 be filled with things that work for you.